31 July 2018

Reviewing my views

It has been a minute since I reviewed my views on things. I think it's important to write down your views to understand what you believe, to really put it in a place where it can be read, thought about, and considered. I don't write my views to tell anyone else their views are wrong. You are entitled to your own opinion.

My libertarian left-leaning feminist part-time SJW wife doesn't agree with everything, but she agrees with fundamental things that allow us to find a place to still be happy. When I started looking into politics it started problems with us. She was afraid that my new awakening was putting us at odds. In some ways it was. I had to examine my views in these things to know what I believed so we could have a discussion and work some things out. We did, and found that things we thought were problems weren't, we believed the same. Or in the case of gay marriage, while she doesn't support it, she would happily go to the wedding of our wonderful friend, should he find someone to marry.

As I said before, I watched a  lot of politics and found myself to be a middle of the line conservative libertarian, but that doesn't really describe what I believe, so here goes: (removed inset bullets for easier read on mobile)


I now favor homeschooling above public schooling. I understand it better. My twin daughters will be homeschooled. And my next child, when they come, too. I suppose this depends on the parent that will be doing the teaching, but many programs exist to give the parents the tools they need, and homeschool co-ops are a wonderful chance for homeschool families to share teaching. My wife can teach music lessons, english, and history, and I can teach math, art, and science. We can take the children to the co-ops to fill in other areas where we are weak. It's wonderful.

I am a fan of individual freedoms.
  • I believe in your right to work in any field you want.
  • I believe in your right to believe any religion you want.
  • I believe in your right to follow any political path you want.
  • I believe in your right to live in any country you want.
  • I believe in your right to take any drug you want.
  • I believe in your right to think anything you want.
  • I believe in the right of free speech, and I also believe in the consequences of saying something stupid publicly. 
  • Roseanne recently said something offensive. Don't remember what it was, but so far as I remember, Roseanne always says something offensive. ABC cut her show. That's too bad, I liked the original Roseanne show, and never even got to see this one.
  • James Gunn said some very awful things a long time ago, and apologized for them. Those things were said before he got his job at Disney, but I don't know about the apology. Yes, they were horrific, awful things. He has been good since, and I love his movies. 
  • He stated that Roseanne has a right to say the things she said, which she does, and ABC doesn't have to carry her show, which they don't. 
  • Gunn and Disney have the same rights.
  • I think how he has behaved since shows true growth.
  • I bet Gunn understands irony better than ever.
  • Basically, public life is a hard one, because you have to constantly watch what you say. I don't know if I'm satisfied on where my stance is on these two people. I think I would support them both getting their jobs back.
I believe that hate speech is still speech, and in this country we have that right. You also have the right not to listen, to walk away, or to argue.
  • You do not have the right to attack. Your rights end where another's begin.
  • I think hate speech stems from ignorance. Once you get to know the person as an individual, it's harder to hate them.
  • Prison is full of white supremacists. I knew some. I didn't buy in. But I saw at the lunch table a black man sitting with a white man who was part of the Arian Knights. This was during receiving. They were becoming friends, cellies I bet (that means roommate) and the black guy had concerns:
  • "When we get out of RDU, are you going to hate me because I'm black?"
  •  The AK waved it off, "Naw, man. That's just for survival. I don't really believe that. We're cool."
  • Many white supremacists love the movie American History X because of the Arian brotherhood / Neo-Nazi scenes at the beginning. What they seem to forget is that the rest of the movie is about recognizing that bigotry and hatred is stupid. Ed Norton's character works with a black man in the laundry, and they begin to be good friends. He is attacked and victimized by the white supremacists that were supposed to be his brothers in arms. He leaves the culture behind and when he gets out, and his friends try to drag him back, he sees the ignorance and the hatred that shaped his life and sent him to prison and he wants nothing to do with it. That is the true message of American History X.
I believe people can change and overcome their past. I have, having rebuilt my life three times now from really bad decisions. My wife is a missionary for the LDS Church's Addiction Recovery Program and we have seen great things happen as addicts get help.

I believe that talking about issues, such as racism, does not make someone a bigot.
  • Papa John was discussing with his board of directors the awful biggoted comments other people said, and was called a racist and released from two jobs. If we can't even talk about it we have bigger problems.
I believe that you don't have the right to force your beliefs on me or anyone. Your rights end where another's begin.
I support Gay Marriage.
  • That one is tricky for me. 
  • The LDS Church supports marriage, and believes, based on the Bible and God's revelations, that homosexuality is a sin. They say that a gay couple that marries, in order to be worthy, should remain celibate.
  • If I were gay, there would be no way I could be celibate with the person I love.
  • I have several gay friends, and I could not ever imagine standing up to say that they don't have a right to pursue happiness, to find love, or have sex. I am at odds with the church in this, and I guess that's okay. I love both, and I love the church for standing up for their beliefs. 
I support my adult friend's decision to transition from male to female. I love her no matter what she wears or what pronouns she wants me to use. I worry about the high level of trans suicide, upwards of 40%, and don't wish that on anyone. Jasmine is an adult, and if it makes her happy, good for her.
I do not support teaching children that they can choose their gender, or that gender is a social construct, or that men and women are the same.
I believe men and women have roles to play in families.
  • I believe children are best served by learning those roles and following the model.
  • I believe that children grow up happiest and most well adjusted with fathers and mothers in the home to teach them right from wrong, and without the confusion of calling them neutral pronouns until they are 4 or 5 and letting them choose before they go to school, when they barely understand the world around them. 
  • I believe that my son can play with dolls, that my daughters can play with trucks. I also believe that children have natural desires to play with certain toys, and if my son picks up a doll I will not then wrongly assume he has decided to be a girl and put him in a dress. Likewise, if my daughters are playing dress-up and put my son in a dress, it won't destroy his psyche or turn him into a girl. 
  • My wife and I, because we recently had this discussion after I watched way too much political stuff, spoke about this. She helped to remind me that make-believe play isn't something that defines life-long characteristics. I have played female characters in video games, table top rpgs, and the NPCs in the games I run. It doesn't change who I am.
  • Men have physiological differences about them that make them men, including bone structure and muscle build. While men come in many shapes and sizes, this is still a truth.
  • Women have physiological differences about them that make them women. Bone structure and muscle build are only two of them. The same is true, different shapes and sizes doesn't stop them from being women.
  • I believe that both are necessary in society. I believe that the differences are necessary. I believe that when we snuff out the differences we lose what makes being men or women beautiful and unique.
  • I believe gay couples that have children can show children similar lessons that straight couples teach: respect and love for your partner, respect and love for your children.
  • i believe that there are some things that it would be helpful to have a male or female godparent to assist if there is a missing role in the couple. I am not trying to say that men cannot fill a woman's role, or vice versa. None of my gay friends are married, or have children, so I don't know enough about this situation. But I do still feel that men and women are different, and children do best with both roles filled.
I love my country and hate my government.
  • I don't really like Trump. Never did. Think he's a total ass. 
  • I don't know if he's a traitor, and I think that the Left wants everyone to think that. 
  • I think that his policies are not the same as his rhetoric. 
  • I think he's a shock-value TV star, that he likes to be that way. 
  • Sage (previous wife) and I voted Obama because he promised change, not because of his race.
  • I would have voted Nader if I could. Or Ron Paul.
  • This time I would have voted for pretty much anyone else besides Clinton or Trump. It had nothing to do with Clinton being a woman, she's just an awful human being.
  • So is Trump.
  • So is Giuliani
  • I wouldn't have voted for Romney, either. It has nothing to do with his faith. We share the same faith. I think that he's a plank of wood that is disconnected from the people. 
I don't believe that a person of faith is bad for the country. The Pope didn't run the country when Kennedy was president, President Nelson wouldn't run the country if there was a Mormon in the office.
  • I sustain our President and hope he does the right things for the country.
  • I will hope the next president, being D or R, male or female, straight or gay, black or brown or red or yellow or white or whatever, will also do what is right for the country.
  • I thought we were pretty great to begin with.
Socialism is a terrible idea.
  • This coming from the guy that has socialized health care from the VA.
  • This coming from the Mormon that believes one day we will all live the law of consecration, which is basically socialism.
  • The difference is that it will be run by Jesus and God, not by mortals that have flaws and weaknesses. 
  • All the current socialism countries are barely hanging on, starving their people, have tax rates that are unsustainable. The money has to come from somewhere. It's good in theory, but so far the practice has proven to be a really bad idea. 
  • Until something better is developed, I'm happy to be a Capitalist and work for what I have. 
I don't support open borders.
  • This one is a tough one. I believe that undocumented workers fill a role in our society. There are jobs they are willing to do that people like me are not. 
  • I know refugees need a place of refuge. The city I live in has always been a place of refuge. Basque, Korean, there were some from some Soviet country awhile back, and now the new refugees. I can't remember what culture. They wear long beautiful robes and walk everywhere. Nice people.
  • I think I still support the citizen vs non-citizen approach. Maybe not as I did way back when I started this blog, but similar.
  • Those that want to come here and work, that do the farm work and construction work that I don't want to do, should be given non-citizen visas and be allowed to work. 
  • This visa does not grant them a right to vote,  or healthcare. I think that charity organizations would rise to support their needs and provide health care. I don't think that it should be paid for by the state.
  • Those that commit grievous crimes should be sent back to their country. If they return, well, that is something I still have to think about.
I believe in rehabilitation instead of incarceration.
  • That being said, prison was the best thing that ever happened to me. It gave me the opportunity to step away from what I was doing and get the help I needed so my addictions don't control me.
  • I know that isn't the same for everyone.
  • I guess I think that incarceration during rehabilitation is the best way. But warehousing us isn't the answer. I'm sure there's statistics on all this, and I'm pretty sure they agree with me.
  • ARP, AA, NA are wonderful programs when you work them. A better life.
I support equality of opportunity, not equality of outcome.
  • Redistribution of wealth is stealing.
  • We have opportunity in this country. 
  • I'm a felon that spent 8-1/2 years in prison and 10 years on parole. I have two businesses, a home, a family. I've been married three times and divorced twice. I grew up very poor. I've been to college (and I'm still paying for it). I don't wait for the government to give me anything, I go out and make it myself. I don't blame anyone for my bad decisions that hurt my family and friends and sent me to prison. Those were my bad decisions. No one made me think those things or do those things. I spent the last 18-1/2 years in recovery from my addiction and repentance for my sins. Change happens, just not over night.
  • Go out and make yours, don't steal it.
I believe that businesses have the right to refuse service to anyone. Individual freedoms still stand.
  • Why would you want to shop at a business that doesn't agree with your values?
  • This stems from the cake decorators that wouldn't make the cake for the gay couple.
  • This stems from the couple that made all the invitations and decorations, but didn't want to have the wedding in their home or be a part of it because they didn't support gay marriage. 
  • Your rights end where another's begin.
I don't agree with abortion. I think that life begins at conception and that a woman's choice to do what she wants with her body does not extend to the body that she carries within her. Once the baby is born, she can go do whatever she wants with her body. Your rights end where another's begin. That includes a baby.
  • If you don't want a baby, use protection. Take the pill. Abstain. Wear a condom. Get snipped. 
  • You have choices. That child does not.
  • Adoption is an option. 
I don't believe in micro-aggression. I think this buzz word was created to make people victims by claiming their victimhood as a weapon against those that don't agree with them.
  • A person that doesn't use specified pronouns is not committing an act of violence.
  • I do not have the right to force speech on anyone.
  • I don't have a right to not be offended. If I expect anyone who speaks to not offend, then no one can speak. 
  • There is no safe space. 
  • Hard speech makes us tough. It builds that outer defensive shell that helps us to handle tough things. 
  • I learned this in the Marines. 
  • First, by working my body to make it stronger. 
  • Second, by working my voice to make it louder. 
  • Third, by the stress the Drill Instructors put on me and my fellow Marines so we could handle the pressures of battle. 
  • You can't request a safe space from an enemy. You will die. 
  • Toughen your skin, recognize that not everyone believes the same things you do, and accept that. 
  • I believe that if you claim victimhood in everything, you will have a miserable life. 
I am a straight, white, male. I was born white, I was born male. I have no desire to change either. I love my wife, my children, my pets, Jesus, the LDS church, Star Wars, RPGs, books, good pens, candy, pizza, and all my various hobbies.
  • I want to homestead, build my house out of papercrete, have a sustainable self-sufficient piece of property with goats, rabbits, chickens, and a garden.
I believe happiness is found in achievement, overcoming, and growth. Do not be comfortable in your current surroundings, or you will be there forever. Be better than the labels placed on you. Strive to make it so.
What are your views? Do you agree? Disagree? Let's keep it civil. I think we can share ideas without calling names. Have you tried this? writing down your views? Link them in the comments and I'll read them. I welcome an open exchange of ideas.

2 comments:

Stephanie Martin Dougal,  July 31, 2018 at 3:42 PM  

You fixed it. ��
I love you, and accept you. All of you. All of this. What we still disagree about is small potatoes compared to our relationship, and how much I freaking love you. I support you in all these opinions of yours, and admire you for sharing them. Maybe I'll offer some arguments in a forthcoming comment, or discussion with you, but I want this comment to be just what it is now. I love being your wife!

Soul Existence July 31, 2018 at 9:08 PM  

Sorry its so squished on mobile. I will fix it.
Love you too, baby

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